Most hostile people are very self-involved, an understandable complement to their cynicism. The longstanding focus on self, as well as the need to be in control, grows out of a lack of trust in others. If you don't place much trust in other people, you have only yourself to count on. Hence, much of your conversation is laced with references to yourself - I, me, mine. This low level of trust in others and its attendant high level of self-involvement frequently cause the hostile person to pay little attention to what the other person is saying or doing.
Rather than trying to hear and understand, do you find your instead busily concentration on your own thoughts, forming your own agenda about what to say next? This is why conversations with hostile people can be so frustrating - concerned mainly with their own ideas rather than trying to learn from others, they often interrupt before the other person has even had a chance to complete a sentence. Even if the hostile listener can anticipate what is said, the speaker is probably still insulted. As the columnist George F. Will once said when his follow commentator William F. Buckley tried to finish a sentence for him, "Bill, I am the world's expert on how I want to end my sentence!"
Virginia and Redford Williams, Anger Kills
Baruch Ata Adonai Elo-hei-nu me-lech ha-olam a-sher ke-d-sha-nu b- mitz-vo-tav, v-tzi-va-nu al s-fi-rat ha-omer.
Praised be you Adonai our God who rules the Universe instilling within us the holiness of mitzvot by commanding us to count the Omer.
Today is the twenty-eighth day of the Omer.